How To Tell If He’s Well Endowed Before Meeting?

For those of us that feels that cock size matters when choosing a lover, I’m here to help.  How many times have you matched with a man but wondered If the both of you will be sexually compatible, but felt awkward In asking him what he Is working with under those “Seven For All Mankind jeans?” To cut down on time-wasting and hurt feelings, these are some of the things I do with all of my matches to filter out disappointment.

As soon as you’ve exchanged pleasantries on whichever  dating site you’re using, immediately move the conversation to Kik or some other video chatting messenger service you prefer.  If you both have nothing to hide, this should be a non issue. Nine times out of ten, the man initiates flirting and begins requesting sexy pics.  This Is where In a subtle way I’d reassure him that he may show me anything he thinks that I need to see.  The majority of men (in my experience) begin sending pics and videos at this point In the hopes that they’ll get explicit pictures/videos of me.  Personally I have no issue with showing off for a potential lover.  I want both of us to be happy with each others bodies.  This a purely sexual relationship after all.

Judging size from videos and pics can be a bit tricky and lets face It, some of you gents deal In “internet inches”.  My advice is to pay very close attention to those pics from these wonderful exhibitionists.  If he is sitting upright nude with a full erection, look to see how close the tip of his cock Is to his bellybutton. For me, anything at or above the bellybutton Is ideal. For girth, watch how he is stroking his cock.  Is he using a clenched fist? Is the tip of the index finger and thumb struggling to   encircle it? Could he easily use both hands to stroke his erection? Also tried and true ( If he’s an Xfinity subscriber) have him pose his erect cock with the remote control at the base.

**Xfinity remote control Is eight inches long.

 

My Experience With Monogamy

I’ve had periods of monogamy during my twenties. It felt very restricting and unnatural to me. This was during a time In my life when I was desperately trying to conform to my then husband’s  and family’s expectations of me.  I was never able to live up to those standards for longer than a year.

I felt tremendous guilt when my previous husband (now my very awesome ex-husband ) was disappointed and hurt when he found out on several occasions that I’d been unfaithful, we eventually divorced amicably .

Although the divorce felt like a death In the family, It was the most liberating feeling  I’d felt in years .  At that point, I decided that marriage and monogamous relationships were not for me and was content with living my life on my terms, guilt free and shameless.

A couple of years later, I met and fell in love with my current husband.   I was very upfront with Joseph that I was never throwing away my little black book and would continue seeing others.  Fortunately, he always fantasized about being married to a “hotwife” and having a monogamous partner wasn’t a priority for him.  We then came to the happy conclusion that we were  made for each other .  Finally I found someone who I can be myself with.

 

Are Cock Pics Ever Ok?

Perhaps I’m in the minority when it comes to this point of view, but I absolutely love cock pics.  They can be a  fabulous tool in determining If I want to take on a particular lover.   My favorite ones are done using the video feature on cell phones and of course with the man’s face very visible.

I most enjoy the ones with creativity and . The two that stands out the most  currently are the ones from “Latin lover” and “Pound”. Latin lover’s mini video clips are all done with Kik camera ( so I know that they were created just for me) .  He always gets the lighting right and plays soft sexy music in the background to set the mood while he’s stroking. The surroundings are super tidy also.

Then there is Pound. His mini videos makes me feel a  mixture of amusement and arousal and the same time.  First of all, I’m not sure why he calls himself “Pound”.  I think he should have went with tripod honestly .  In his videos , he sometimes dresses up for the occasion.  I have seen him wear pants with suspenders ( which he loves to unzip ever so slowly, showing off his erection and cock ring on his balls.) and other times, long johns with four-leaf clover prints all over the top and bottoms. What I find most amusing Is that he often has some sort of action movie soundtrack playing with him gyrating in slow motion and stroking at the same time. I’ve never seen anything like this .

Will I meet with either of these men?  Eventually yes, I think it would be rude not to;)

*To the men reading this post, please ask before sending cock pics.  Not every woman appreciates them.

A Cuckhold With A Small Cock – Named Tim

A cuckold with a small cock named “Tim” is a gorgeous hunk of a man who practically lives in the gym.  He also has a wicked sense of humor to boot. One of the things that he often jokes about, is being a cuckold with a small cock.  I thought that he was just saying that to make me laugh at first, but then he sent me a ton of pics that showed that he actually was telling the truth. I’ve been chatting with him on the Kik app for a couple of months and would like to keep him as an online friend if he’d agree to that.

Why have I not made more of an effort to meet him?

First, his apartment looks filthy in pictures.  In addition to the messy place that Tim would like for me to have me visit, It’s over an hour by train to see him.  Lastly, he has a small penis and I’d rather not deal with that.  I could honestly overlook the messy apartment with a bathroom that probably hasn’t seen a mop and bucket in months. Also, I’m even willing to take the Amtrak train If I were certain that I’d have a good time, but I’m hesitant. That small cock of his isn’t appealing to me.

Tim Presented Me With References And An Offer To Sweeten The Deal

Tim knows his shortcomings (pun intended) and promises me that he is excellent at oral sex. He has even provided screenshots from text messages he had with other women in the past raving about his tongue. I’m honestly curious.  In all my years I’ve never had a man provide me with references proving his skills as a lover. In addition to offering his oral resume, Tim also presented me with an offer to sweeten the deal, his very hot friend who’s well endowed, but there was a catch.  He wants me to see both of them together in a three-way.  His friend would supply the much desired huge cock and Tim supplying the foreplay and oral. Being the cuckold with a small cock isn’t a new scenario for Tim. According to him, he’s been cucked in all of his relationships. I told him that I’d think about it and get back to him.

Should I give Tim a chance?

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I thought about Tim’s Offer and decided not to meet with him.  Turns out that he wanted me to hook up with him without his friend first and I wasn’t interested in doing that. Also, Shane and others came into my life and I  simply became too busy.

*Updated with additional information.

Tiny Tim

Tim is a gorgeous hunk of a man who practically lives in the gym and also has a wicked sense of humor to boot.  I’ve been chatting with him on the Kik app for a couple of months.

Why have I not made more of an effort to meet him? His apartment looks filthy in his pictures, he lives over an hour away from me and he has a small penis.  I could honestly overlook the messy apartment with a bathroom that probably hasn’t seen a mop and bucket in months. I’m even willing to take the Amtrak train If I were certain that I’d have a good time, but I’m hesitant about his penis size.  Am I a size queen? Maybe.

Tim knows his shortcomings (pun intended) and promises me that he is excellent at oral sex, He has even provided screenshots from text messages he had with other women in the past raving about his tongue, I’m honestly curious.  In all my years, I’ve never had a man provide me with references proving his skills as a lover, I’m honestly flattered.

Should I give Tim a chance?

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Nah, can’t do it. I’d just get frustrated with him.

 

Online Dating Frustrations

Life most  women’s profiles on a dating website, I receive a fair bit of attention and an overwhelming amount of messages in my inbox .  It sometimes takes me up to a week to respond to my matches and  honestly feels like a part-time job. Also, the dating apps/websites do a terrible job in providing search features that help to narrow the matches to one’s preferences.

Finding a fit/jacked red-head or blonde man under 35 and well endowed, within 10 miles of my area should not take this much effort. Wouldn’t It be easier if these desired categories were already available in profile searches?  It would certainly reduce the amount of time wasted trying to determine if a particular man will please me sexually. I can’t be alone in this, can I?

 

 

 

Dating a Polyamorous Man For The First Time

Dating a polyamorous man is new for me but I’ve decided to give him a chance because I’m insanely attracted to him. He’s a working-class, blue-collar guy, who likes weed and has many tattoos. I met him a while ago on OKcupid. We chatted for a week then met in person about a week after matching with each other. I’m giving him a chance because he ticks most of the boxes.

Shane is a handsome redhead that’s tall, young, well endowed and fun to be around. He does have a couple of negative habits that I find extremely annoying but I”m choosing to enjoy the ride for now. For more on the fun times that Shane and I have together, check out “Typical Night With Shane“.  For the negatives, please read below.

What Annoys Me About Shane?

A negative and It’s a big one is that he already has a long-term partner who he obviously loves. Let me be clear, I’m not bothered that he has a primary partner. I understand this is par for the course when dating a polyamorous man.  I just have a problem with him oversharing with his primary partner. The details that he shares with her about our dates and phone messages just doesn’t sit well with me.  I don’t mind talking about our kids or our significant others ever so often.  What I dislike is the constant presence of the third person.  Our time should be exactly that, ” Our time”, an escape from the everyday stresses.

He’s a Chatty Boundary Pusher

Shane also constantly drops hints of wanting a threesome with me and his girlfriend, knowing that I’m not attracted to women.  I’ve made it clear in my dating profile on OkCupid   and also to him that I’m straight.  I’ve even told him on several occasions that the only threesome that would interest me are mfm, yet he keeps rambling on and on about her hoping that I’ll eventually relent and say; ” Great, I think she is wonderful too, lets all play together”.  He also mentioned that when he is with her, he constantly talks about me; surely she finds that annoying?

Shane told me that wifey gets off on sharing him and also enjoys hearing about his encounters ( although I’m not so sure that I believe him).  In my mind, Shane and wifey already have their dynamic and want a second woman who will join them as a couple when they are bored just fucking each other.  I find nothing wrong with that, but that is not the situation  I’m looking for.

Finding what I want is challenging so  I’ll likely keep seeing him until something (someone) more suitable comes along.

The Only Dish On The Menu

He’s a bit different from what I’m used to dating. He’s a working class, blue-collar guy, who likes weed and has many tattoos.  I’m giving him a chance because he ticks most of the boxes. A handsome redhead that’s tall, young, well endowed and fun to be around. The only negative and It’s a big one,  he already has a long-term partner who he obviously loves.

Let me be clear, I’m not bothered that he has a primary partner who knows that he dates others, I usually prefer this .  What slightly irritates me are the details he shares with her about our dates and our messages. It just doesn’t sit well with me.  I don’t mind talking about our kids or our significant others ever so often.  What I do dislike is the constant presence of the third person.  Our time should be exactly that, ” Our time”, an escape from the everyday stresses.

I’m also annoyed that “Shane” constantly drops hints of wanting a threesome with me and his girlfriend, knowing that I’m not attracted to women.  I’ve made it clear in my dating profiled on OkCupid  and to him directly that I’m straight  .  I’ve even told him on several occasions that the only threesome that would interest me are mfm, yet he keeps rambling on and on about her hoping that I’ll eventually relent and say :” Gee, I think she is wonderful too, lets all play together”.  He also mentioned that when he is with her, he constantly talks about me; surely she finds that annoying?

But according to him, she gets off on sharing her partner , and likes hearing about his encounters ( although I’m not so sure that I believe him).  In my mind, Shane and his primary partner already have their dynamic and want a second woman who will join them as a couple when they are bored just fucking each other.  I find nothing wrong with that, but that Is not the situation  I’m looking for.

Finding what I want is challenging so  I’ll likely keep seeing him until something (someone) more suitable comes along.