He’s a bit different from what I’m used to dating. He’s a working class, blue-collar guy, who likes weed and has many tattoos. I’m giving him a chance because he ticks most of the boxes. A handsome redhead that’s tall, young, well endowed and fun to be around. The only negative and It’s a big one, he already has a long-term partner who he obviously loves.
Let me be clear, I’m not bothered that he has a primary partner who knows that he dates others, I usually prefer this . What slightly irritates me are the details he shares with her about our dates and our messages. It just doesn’t sit well with me. I don’t mind talking about our kids or our significant others ever so often. What I do dislike is the constant presence of the third person. Our time should be exactly that, ” Our time”, an escape from the everyday stresses.
I’m also annoyed that “Shane” constantly drops hints of wanting a threesome with me and his girlfriend, knowing that I’m not attracted to women. I’ve made it clear in my dating profiled on OkCupid and to him directly that I’m straight . I’ve even told him on several occasions that the only threesome that would interest me are mfm, yet he keeps rambling on and on about her hoping that I’ll eventually relent and say :” Gee, I think she is wonderful too, lets all play together”. He also mentioned that when he is with her, he constantly talks about me; surely she finds that annoying?
But according to him, she gets off on sharing her partner , and likes hearing about his encounters ( although I’m not so sure that I believe him). In my mind, Shane and his primary partner already have their dynamic and want a second woman who will join them as a couple when they are bored just fucking each other. I find nothing wrong with that, but that Is not the situation I’m looking for.
Finding what I want is challenging so I’ll likely keep seeing him until something (someone) more suitable comes along.